A better way

on behalf of the children

and the facts of their lives

A broken social system is not a suitable environment in which to raise children

A healthy and well adjusted child requires a healthy and well adjusted environment in which to grow

There are no better educated minds in regards the prevention and survival of sexual abuse than those who have both prevented and survived.

MBS :: My Broken Society

Some ridicule this site and its aims, others ignore and laugh, some rant and become angry, others abuse, fight and argue, some even wish and others try to silence this - why is that?
When it comes to our children perhaps the answer lays with the truth of some matters.
Answers to foolish questions such as the oft cried defence: "Where did he get that": when little Billy or Mary speak or act entirely out of line. The answer that Billy or Mary are unable to voice is quite simply "From you and the environment you raise me in. That is simply how I have learned from my environment. Why do you punish me for that?"

If what you say, what you mean and what you do are not co-ordinated your children will become confused.
How to build a lasting relationship with your children. Speak only the truth to them. If you do not acknowledge your own truth you simply cannot speak truthfully with your children or other you have relationships with.
A child does not come with the ability to undertake sophisticated tasks, they must learn them in order to be able to perform them.
  • we learn to lie when we are lied to
  • we learn to abuse when we are abused
  • we learn to blackmail when we are blackmailed
  • we learn to psychologically abuse when we are psychologically abused
  • we learn to swear when we are sworn at
  • we learn to rape when we are raped
  • we learn to blame when we are blamed
  • we learn hypocrisy through experiencing hypocrisy
We can only do those things we learn until we understand why we are confused - then we can exercise choice and we can conduct ourselves in a manner which is both loving and caring - few of us choose not to when we understand.

What other dysfunctional ways have you taught me?

Why do you discipline me when I am simply doing as I have learned in the way you have taught me. I am simply treating you as I have been treated - are my actions abnormal in some way?

What other dysfunctional things have you taught me? How do I now guess at what is a suitable way for me to act?  My chances of failure are even greater than those of my teachers. Does this mean also that I will be punished even harder for simply doing as I have experienced and learned. We your children find fault with your skewed conclusions and your hypocritical practices. We simply believe that if you wish us to act within society in an appropriate way then all we ask is that you conduct yourself in a similar manner - then we would all get along much better.
What other deceptive and antisocial ways have you taught me?

How else are you deceiving me?
Is there any wonder I am confused, I have simply learned that from you.

On the sexual abuse, exploitation & deception of children

There is no excuse for sexual abuse according to our law and government except when the abuse has been carried out by Catholic clergy.

"This is a matter for the church and I respect the internal judgements of the church. I don’t stand outside the church and provide them with public lectures in terms of how they should behave..."

Kevin Rudd, Prime Minister of Australia, 17 July 2008.


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This is perhaps the most horrific act of abandonment perpetrated against the children of a specific religion by an Australian head of State and is recorded in our history for perpetuity as being made by Kevin Rudd on 17 July 2008, when he spoke in regards those affected by the sexual abuses carried out by Catholic clergy.http://www.pm.gov.au/media/Interview/2008/interview_0363.cfm

This is a deeply flawed and invalid response both morally and legally which includes all victims of clergy abuse being referred over to the leader of the Catholic Church or the respective leaders of other Churches or Religions when quite clearly sexual abuse by clergy is a phenomena found in many Churches and religions and it simply is not within the Prime Ministers realm to pass responsibility for those sexually abused by Catholic and non-Catholic clergy over to the Catholic church or anyone else.

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Is it any wonder our children are confused?

No wonder our children are confused - if we continually send confusing messages to our children then it is us who is acting irrationally when we demand the right to sanction them for acting in the same way we do, or in the same way our Government services do.

No amount of resources, education, laws, treatments or levels of incarceration and sanctions can educate a child to function both successfully and rationally in a society when the very society which is demanding that is unable itself to function at the levels demanded. There is no rational response to such an irrational situation.

Is it any wonder so many are confused?

Government and our religions are unable to provide and implement successful strategies in regards sexual abuses by clergy and other in the community.

Government and our religions repeatedly and stubbornly refuse to consult with the victims of these abuses by clergy and others in the community and their carers and advocates.

Is it any wonder so many are abused and re-abused?

How can they expect our children to act in a more adult and responsible manner, a manner which is above the examples set by our Governments and religious.

How irrational and foolish are we when we use sanctions against those who are unable to perform on demand at a higher level than those applying the sanctions.

Is it any wonder our children think we are foolhardy and stupid?

Of course we can always sanction our children severely for saying that we got it wrong. We can also sanction them for getting it wrong themselves in a confused world. Their need to survive and remain accepted as children will simply cause them to cede to those sanctions. This simply shows that if you beat a child hard enough and demand that he agree with you they must if they simply want to be loved by their parents and elders. If they want to ever experience the love of those who sanction they simply have no choice but to cede and conform to the power held over them - this use of power proves nothing other than acknowledging the fact that you can force someone into submission. It in no way proves your are on the right track.

Quite simply if these men genuinely had the ear of God as they say, it simply would not have taken 500 years as in the case of Mr Galilei and the shape of the earth, nor would it take very long to resolve the sexual abuse issue if they simply had 10 seconds with God.

It is clear that they simply do not have that line to Jesus Christ because quite simply if they did they would act differently.

Check these other related sites: City of Angels Lady | Molested Catholic | City of Angels Lady | September 1 2009 | TFYQA | My Broken Society